As most of us know from life experience, happiness does not grow on trees. It has to be conjured up on most days. The first time I heard, "Fake it till you make it." was from a dear friend who was a member of AA. I broke out in laughter and disbelief. But, it turns out, he was indeed giving me a life tip that has served me more times than I can count.
Waking up is where this one starts. Intend it. Realizing that you have to reach into your soul for those precious memories is sometimes not possible. So fake it. Think about the most wonderful news you could possibly receive and pretend it has happened. (I am fully aware some of you are mocking me right now, its OK, I thought it was BS myself.) This also ties into the law of attraction as well as the power of positive thinking. Think about having the most wonderful house or car. What you would feel like being the perfect body size. How it would feel having the perfect job for you. Being with an amazing spouse or partner. Don't worry if your already in a relationship, just picture that person being a wonderful partner. Imagination is like a magnet. Think of your favorite things, hot coffee, cool weather, being on vacation on a sunny beach, you get the drift. Be thankful for receiving what you are imagining. Just think of the thing that brings you joy in your heart and be thankful for already having it.
Consider meditation. Centering and focusing on peacefulness and joy. Smile with every cell in your body as you sit in a quiet space. All you need is ten minutes although I enjoy at least half an hour if not more. If your more hands on then make a vision board. This only requires a smooth flat surface like poster board, foam board or a picture frame from an old wall hanging and old magazines. Cut and paste a collage of all the things you would like to bring into your life. Warning: Make sure everything in the visual is what your calling for. Do not include a baby in a stroller sitting next to the park bench if that is not your wish. I know it sounds silly but this is a request your sending out, make it count. I've heard stories on how powerful this is. Don't ask for the guy in the Marlboro Man add if your not a smoker. Just saying.
Alright, so all that stuff is not for you, keep it simple. Start with a smile. If you can think of the funniest thing you can recall, that will work. If all else fails just smile. Give it time, breathe, keep smiling, breathe some more. You are what you believe, you just have to remember being sad or angry or unhappy is a habit just like being happy. The difference is being negative makes you feel like crap. Sure it might really be the pits where you are right now. Is feeling bad helping?
Just a footnote for those who believe they are beyond all happiness and all is lost so why bother. My mother was diagnosed with cancer and given two weeks to live. We made an agreement that instead of living those last few weeks in full on devastation, we would speak as though she were being taken on a wonderful vacation. So we talked about all the sights she would see and how wonderful it would be. She even said she would be waiting for me and would make sure I had a seat. Of course there were tears and reality of death never left. But she was happy right up to the end. She spent her last days on earth happy. Being sad would not stop her death. Being happy helped her pass over much easier. We faked it together.
Royal TX
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